Dear Emma,
My boyfriend and I just started dating this past summer. His ex-girlfriend goes to Fordham, and she really doesn’t like me. She’s constantly trying to text him or talk to him when he’s out and I really don’t like it. It causes a lot of fights between my boyfriend and me and she knows it, but she continues to try to contact him. I’ve talked to him a dozen times about it, and he says that he doesn’t want to be mean to her by telling her to stop. I would feel like a crazy girlfriend if I confronted her, but I just don’t know what other options I have. What should I do?
Crazy Girlfriend
Dear Crazy Girlfriend,
First of all, you’re not being crazy; your boyfriend is just being inconsiderate. It sounds like this problem should have been fixed a while ago if you’ve talked to him dozens of times about this issue. If he sees that this is upsetting you, why does he continue to do it? Asking his ex-girlfriend to stop talking to him doesn’t have to be mean at all. If he really cares about you, he would respect your wishes and ask her to stop. If it continues to happen, I wouldn’t even talk to her about it, I would just seriously start to consider ending the relationship with him. You deserve to be with someone who focuses on moving forward rather than concentrating on the past, especially if the past has a secret agenda to mess with his future. Good luck!
Emma
Dear Emma,
I’m a freshman, and ever since I got here, I’ve been confused about the kind of boys there are at Fordham. I’m not searching for a boyfriend, but I’m not trying to get caught in a friends-with-benefits trap either. I’m just looking to make friends and not make any mistakes my first semester here. What advice do you have?
Freshman
Dear Freshman,
Many girls make mistakes their first semester and have reputations that follow them for the rest of their four years here. You really don’t want to make the mistake of being known as someone who will make out with dozens of people each weekend in Howl, or the girl that hooked up with four boys on the football team. Regardless, this doesn’t mean you can’t have fun. If there’s a boy that you like, I highly suggest you get to know him before getting involved with him. There are a lot of boys at Fordham who are really cute, or seem really nice, but turn out to be just terrible. You can’t go wrong with being friends with someone first! Have fun and be careful.
Emma
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